What Do You Choose? EQ or IQ?

People used to say that if someone had a great IQ meant that he would be a successful man later in his future. Having a high IQ had always been related of how succeed they were. Besides, it was also said that IQ couldn’t be changed. It was your destiny to have such thing.

These days, research has proven that IQ only contribute 20 % of your success, that it is not the most important thing you should have. IQ is primarily only related to your academic things in school. In a book that I have just read, it is said that there is an intelligence which is definitely more important that IQ and that is EQ. As what I have stated, that IQ only convey 20 % for your success, EQ and SQ contribute the rest of the percentage. We can see why people with a high IQ fail and people with a so-so IQ can be very successful. We can also see that a lot of men with higher IQ work for the lower one. This is sure because EQ is more important than IQ.

So how can we define EQ?
Based on a book by Daniel Goleman, it is said that emotional intelligence includes enthusiasm, self motivation, the power to control ourselves and our eagerness, the power to control our emotion, sympathy, and how we relate or communicate with people in society. The main characteristic of people who shows great EQ is the one who show great interest in making a relationship with people, esp the one who can make a close relationship, who can keep and harmonize their relationship, who is usually a popular person in his surrounding, who is so discipline, and who always feels sympathy to people around him.

Here are the five basic emotional intelligence:
1. We should recognize our feeling and emotion, about when we feel happy, when we feel sad, and why we can feel like that.
2. We should be able to control our emotion, don’t a be a slave of our own emotion, don’t let your negative feeling take over you, instead we should feel our mind with positive one.
3. Motivate yourself - be able to motivate ourselves to achieve what we want.
4. Be able to recognize other’s feeling – empathy
5. Have the ability to make a good relationship with others, ability to gain popularity, and have leadership quality.

Different from IQ which has always been said as someone’s fate since they were born, Emotional intelligence can be developed. Besides, IQ and EQ is only slightly related,there’s only a petty relation between them.

*most statement is taken from Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman